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| "Strangler fig" climbing up a cabbage palm. |
Parasites prey upon other living things. They feed upon the life-giving
properties of their host in order to sustain their own life. Some people
imitate this behavior by sponging off their friends and relatives or by eating
up their precious time.
This can be done overtly
through wireless media or in subtle ways that may subvert our efforts to
succeed. In either case, we may find our plans sabotaged, our designated time
devoured, and our energy sapped.
In my neighborhood, a parasitic plant called a strangler fig can
destroy grown trees if allowed to grow unattended. One of their favorite
victims is the palm tree, especially cabbage palms. Of course, palms are not
really trees at all, but members of the grass family. They are hollow inside,
and flexible. When hurricane winds blow, the palms bend and sway. I’ve seen a
few palm tops lopped off in a gale, but this rarely happens.
The danger in strangler figs is that they wrap tightly around the
trunk and steal nutrients from the host. At the top, they grow a thicket of
leaves that hinders the palms flexibility. Instead of
weathering hurricane winds, they end up snapping off or being uprooted from the
weight of the fig leaves.
Negative thinking is a lot like this. It wraps its pitiful arms
around us; makes us feel sorry for ourselves, and then breaks us when we’re
most vulnerable. Like strangler figs,
negative thinking chokes off optimism and confidence. If we allow it to get a
stronghold on us, we become weak and needy. Not a good position for success.
Sometimes we allow others to do our negative thinking for us in the
form of criticism or by allowing them to take over our creative thought
processes. Our own ideas are belittled, crushed and blown away by their
bombastic arrogance.
Recognizing our friends from our enemies is vital for survival.
Having positive influences in our life can curtail the strangling effects of
people who use their power to put others down. Positive criticism, on the other
hand, focuses on our strengths and encourages growth while minimizing error. It
motivates rather than negates.
Recognizing the difference between the two styles of leadership can
help us overcome any negative effects, whether we’re on the giving or receiving
side of the equation.
Below is the church where my husband and I were married almost 10 years ago.
Hi Carol,
ReplyDeleteAnother very thought-provoking post. It reminded me of a recent press article in the sports column, that suggested as a spectator, you are emotionally and physically affected by the performance of your team ie. if they are losing, you get depressed and sullen and vice versa of course.
As long as you are invested in some enterprise, even if it's your favorite footie team, your whole demeanor is affected. How much more then is it if it's your employer, your boss at work?
Great comment, Neil. I lasted one year working for a tyrannical boss. Each time I stepped into his office, trying to relay a message I felt was important, he would yell at me for either interrupting his train of thought, or for something else he didn't like. No matter what I did, he'd find a reason to bark. I was so relieved when I left that office. There's nothing worse than a relationship where you must always "walk on eggs." (Reminded me of my first marriage!)
DeleteCarol, So glad you are free to express yourself. You speak beautiful words and make wonderful art. The world is a better place because you are here. Keep sharing!
ReplyDeleteThank you so much for your kind comments! People like you make it all worthwhile.
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